SAN DIEGO DIVORCE & FAMILY LAW ATTORNEY
MICHELLE PAUL, ESQ.
“Breaking Up is Hard to Do On Your Own – Michelle Paul will lead you through the toughest decisions you will ever have to make, whether it is to protect you, your children, your property and your future.”
Her experience includes 37 years of success in the business world, a political science degree (Summa Cum Laude 4.0 GPA) from Coastal Carolina University, serving as lead trial counsel in both state and federal court, and serving as lead trial counsel in jury trials in San Diego and Napa County. Because she is a seasoned negotiator and businesswoman, Michelle brings you skills that cannot be taught in law school, only through experience. This broad experience and blend of disciplines gives her the tools to approach your case with a battle-tested real world perspective, and leave you and your loved ones enjoying the most favorable outcome possible.
Michelle Paul’s experience in state and federal court, family court, Mediations, Depositions, dealing with Military families and Domestic abuse, Restraining Orders, High Conflict/High Asset cases, and Same-Sex Divorce has given her the knowledge and the skills to earn an outstanding reputation from her clients. She is an attorney who will always strive to find the most favorable resolution for you and your loved ones. She covers every area you need such as child custody, splitting assets, child support, spousal support and even alimony. California divorce is never easy, but you can make it easier with the support and professional assistance of a skilled family law attorney. Call Michelle Paul for a Free, No Obligation consultation so she and her professional legal team can help you maneuver through the complex legal system with success.
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In California, the Court requires the parents to attend at least one mediation session [per year in most cases] with the Family Court Services [“FCS”] in advance of a motion concerning custody and visitation. It is crucial for a Father to know his rights and understand what is expected of him prior to heading into this very important session. Preparation, proper guidance, and organization are key in advance of the FCS session so a Father has ample time to prepare effective strategy. At the conclusion of the mediation session, after taking in information from both parents, the FCS mediator [also known as FCS counselor] will issue a report with its recommendations as to custody and visitation to the Court and to the parents. There is no exact date when the parents receive the FCS Recommendation [also known as an FCS Report], but as a matter of course Family Court Services emails the FCS Recommendation to the Parties and Counsel, if either Party is legally represented, at least two week prior to the Custody and Visitation hearing. Once the FCS Recommendation has been issued to the Parties and/or Counsel, it is expected that both parents review the FCS Recommendations. Agreements made during the FCS session are required to be memorialize in the FCS Recommendation. In the event the Parties have not come to global resolution during the FCS Session, the FCS Report is required to include the FCS mediator’s findings and recommendations that the Court will ultimately review and consider as a Factor when deciding its Custody and Visitation [sometimes Move Away ] Orders. In general, a Request for Order [RFO] hearing is on the Court’s 20-minute hearing calendar. Especially if a Father is not in agreement with the FCS Recommendations as set forth in the FCS Report, Fathers may request a full evidentiary hearing with the Court to determine custody and visitation issues. A Father may also request that the Court appoint a California Evidence Code §730 Child Custody Evaluator to serve as an expert. This process can be complicated especially if a Father has not gone through it before. It is important to get proper legal advice when making the decision to hire a CA Evidence Code §730 Custody Evaluator. While the evaluation process usually is costly depending upon which 730 Evaluator ultimately is hired, providing the expert with all important facts and documentation as to the best interest of the children is crucial to a successful outcome which gives a Father every opportunity at the best chance of success. Working with the §730 Child Custody Evaluator to provide all materials requested, all information requested, setting up interviews, obtaining medical records, school records, and other information showing Father’s involvement with the children is essential; especially if the FCS recommendations as to custody and visitation would restrict Father’s custody and visitation rights and/or does not support Father’s Move Away request.
Once the Divorce Action is filed (or if the parents are not married to each other, what is called a Parentage Action), the parents should make every effort to settle custody and visitation issues out of court; without an out-of-court settlement, mediation must be pursued before the matter may proceed to a hearing.
It is not unusual that a parent may need or want to move to another county, state or even another country for work, education, or even just to live. This situation arises frequently with Military Dads but can arise in any situation. The question is, where will the children live? A Father who is planning on moving and wants to change the current physical custody orders must file a motion with the Court. Regardless of whether the move-away contest arises in an initial custody adjudication or a modification proceeding, once the parent contesting the move shows detriment to the child from the proposed relocation, the trial court must consider all of the relevant factors in deciding whether a change in custody would be in the child's best interest. Including but not limited to the factors courts ordinarily consider in assessing whether the children would suffer detriment from the relocation, and in turn whether custody should be modified, are: the children's interest in stability and continuity in the custodial arrangement; the distance of the move; the children's age; the children's relationship with both parents; the relationship between the parents including, but not limited to, their ability to communicate and cooperate effectively and their willingness to put the children's interests above their individual interests; the children's wishes if they are mature enough to make that inquiry appropriate; the reasons for the proposed move; and the extent to which the parents currently share custody. Fathers who need or want to relocate need to have the forethought to have their ducks in a row before filing the move-away motion. This means a diligent father must be proactive in advance of his move away request. Broad trial court discretion; no “bright line” rules: There are no “bright line rules” in this area ... “each case must be evaluated on its own unique facts. Careful planning and documentation are essential for a successful move-away request.
Whether you are the biological parent, adoptive parent, stepparent, grandparent, or “presumed parent” of a minor child in California, custody and visitation rights are based primarily on the best interest of the minor child. Since parties claiming custody or visitation rights to a minor child may well be at odds with one another, the following tips are worth noting: 1. Decision to Contest Custody Contested custody litigation can be inordinately time-consuming and expensive. More significantly, contested custody proceedings are almost invariably counterproductive to the child's best interests. Consequently, the policy preference is that custody and visitation issues be decided out of the courtroom in a nonadversary environment. Preliminarily, therefore, parties should make every effort to settle custody and visitation issues out of court; failing out-of-court settlement, an action for dissolution or paternity needs to be filed so that the Court can decide the matter. 2. Evaluating chances of success Parties who are adamant about contesting custody/visitation are advised of the basic parameters that will guide the court's decision: Maintenance of status quo: Generally, courts are reluctant to upset the custodial arrangement in existence prior to the hearing (particularly in regard to young children); quite the contrary, absent a showing of detriment to the children, courts will favor maintenance of the status quo . (E.g., if the children have been living with the mother since separation and pending the proceedings, chances are the “permanent” custody order will keep this arrangement intact.) Willingness to accommodate other parent's rights: A party determined to keep the children away from the other parent is likely to face an uphill battle. Unless the children's health, safety and welfare would be undermined, custody orders must be made to ensure the children “frequent and continuing contact” with both parents . Thus, except in cases of threatened child endangerment, a custody contest should not be pursued with the intent to thwart the children's relationship with the other parent. Child's preferences: Parents should also consider their children's wishes—particularly if they are teenagers. The court is likely to do the same and if the child is older (approaching 12 years old and older) and may give their preferences great weight. Domestic violence factor: A domestic violence perpetrator is unlikely to find a “level playing field” in seeking a custody award. As will be discussed, the law presumes such a parent is not suitable for a sole or joint custody award . 3. Improve your chance of success by documenting (prior emails, texts, posts, photos, videos) Recent past involvement with the minor child. Communication with the other parent which shows that you are trying to coparent and work together in the best interests of the child. Your involvement with the child’s school, sports, dance, healthcare, and other activities. Facilitation of contact between the child and the other parent. Parents who make it difficult for the other parent to have access to the child generally are not successful. 4. Coparenting, coparenting, coparenting Do not argue in front of the child. Do not talk about the case with the child. Do not talk bad about the other parent in front of the child. Do not make the child feel like they should not be having fun with the other parent. Do not put the child in the middle. As best you can, put aside all grown-up matters and develop a reasonable plan for custody and visitation which allows the child to feel good about being with either parent. The Court will absolutely look at the attempts to coparent. Even if you are unsuccessful in your attempts to coparent, documentation of your efforts and respectful communication will be an important factor if the Court needs to decide the matter. 5. Stay Actively Involved with your child, even during litigation While your case is pending, it is critical to continue (or commence) being present in your child’s life. During litigation, the Court will order the parties to a mandatory Family Court Services Mediation. Even if you have not been actively involved with child care or your child’s activities, your efforts to be involved and to stay involved will be strongly considered by the Mediator when the “FCS Mediation Report” with recommendations to the Court as to custody and visitation is completed. 6. Work with a skilled and knowledgeable Family Law Attorney The most important thing you can do to protect your custody rights is to hire an experienced family law attorney who understands the nuances of California custody law and is committed to advocating for fathers. At the Law Office of Michelle Paul, we help fathers throughout San Diego present compelling, child-focused custody cases reflecting their commitment and capabilities. We’ll help you gather the right evidence, navigate hearings, and negotiate parenting plans that work for your family. Final Thoughts As a father, you have just as much right to be a central figure in your child’s life as the other parent. With the right legal strategy, consistent involvement, and clear communication, you can build a strong custody case that puts your child’s well-being first and protects your bond for years to come.
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